It's a sad fact that for many of us, it takes a life changing event such as illness, divorce or the death of a loved one for us to reflect on our lives and the legacy we wish to leave; in my case it was a breast cancer diagnosis and while I had trained as a coach and used NLP for self development and in business, I was still afraid of failing, I repeatedly talked myself into and then quickly out of achieving hopes and dreams; the negative self-talk would take over: am I good enough? am I talented enough? do I even know what I am doing? what if I fail? I never even finished school let alone went to university, I argued with myself, I was terrified of not being able to pay my bills or mortgage, letting my family down or failure, I was really scared of failure. So I stayed dreaming instead of doing, in a job that didn't fulfil me.
Another couple of years passed and then BOOM, there I was with a cancer diagnosis that hit me like a train, my life turned upside down and inside out in the space of a couple of hours. And I can promise you there's nothing like staring your own mortality in the face for helping you to realise what and who are important in your life. So I stopped wasting time and I stopped being afraid, I became more afraid of dying and leaving no legacy, of my life meaning nothing than I was of failure or even dying. And while my children and grandchildren will of course be one of my legacy, quite honestly, for me its not enough, I needed my life to mean more.
Reflecting this afternoon, I realise how incredibility blessed I am to have had that realisation before it was too late, admittedly the circumstances could have been better but having a chance to make my dream a reality having the support of not only my family but also so many talented individuals who have the same vision that I do is incredibly awesome. Somehow it feels even more special that my aim is to help others live a life they truly love and to be able to achieve their own goals. And you can do the same, I believe we all have the knowledge and power within us, it just needs tapping into. Facilitating change for others and watching the magic unfold is a real privilege and one I certainly don't take for granted.
It's commonly said that we only get one life, but how many of us truly take that on board and make sure that we create a life we are happy in and proud of? What would you like to be known for and seen as? what would you do if money were no object? what's your legacy? And if you're not living that now, then what's holding you back? Stepping back from your goal and looking at it objectively can really help you to see what needs to be achieved and come up with a plan; what resources do you need additional training, financial support or a network? How can you overcome the obstacles and challenges, who can support you and how can you support yourself?