Today is the day that the UK celebrates it's Fathers, both good and bad. We want to honor the beloved Fathers of our children, but if our own are gone or absent, we can really struggle. Despite my resolve yesterday on focusing in the good, I have really struggled today, more than I have on any Fathers Day in the last 7 years since his passing. Today feels like a doubled edged sword of joy and pain; my children have the most amazing Father and mine is not longer here. My life has had ups and downs, twists and turns and I wouldn't change a thing but I would give anything to share the briefest of moments with my Daddy again.
Today the national Guardian family section publish an article (and very large picture of me!) on my adoption, depending on how much of my blog you've read, you may or may not know that I was adopted by my Grandfather at 6 weeks old and believed my Mum was an older Sister until I was 7.
It's funny seeing part of your life written in print and in someones else's words and reading it did bring a tear to my eye; not because of the situation but because reading it reinforced and reminded me how much my Dad (Granddad) sacrificed and did for me. He was the most amazing man and while he wasn't everyone's cup of tea, he was my very own Super Hero and I quite honestly have no idea what would have become of me if he hadn't taken me in.
I will be thinking of him tomorrow, Fathers Day is always extra hard but I will try not to focus on what I haven't got and on how much I had for so many years.
If you'd like to read the Guardian article you can do so here:
or those local to me (South London/Surrey) here's a little more info about the personal safety and self defence workshop on 22 July. Anyone who knows me, knows that being in front of a camera is not my thing but I am so passionate about the value of this workshop that I stepped out of my comfort zone and into my BOLD.
The statistics show that 50% of women will be subject to an attack or sexual assault in their lifetime, a statisic I am sure you will agree is scary and shocking. I am delighted that Tahir Ahmad of Defence Lab Training has agreed to run an exclusive 3 hour Women’s Personal Safety and Self Defence workshop for BOLD Women. As girls and women, we are generally physically weaker and shorter than our male counterparts, the type of violence and threat we face can be quite different to those of men; with tailored training and understanding, we become better equipped to deal with the specific and unique threats that we are often made victims of.
I believe the saying ‘your life flashes before your eyes’ is actually our brain desperately searching for a point of reference of when we have experienced that event before; it’s searching for a solution. So, our life doesn’t flash before our eyes, but our previous experiences and knowledge does. It can be impossible to find a solution if we have never been in that situation previously or at least seen something that vaguely relates to it. In this 3-hour workshop we will put the balance back in your favour by making you aware of the possible dangers and showing you how to overcome them. It’s more than just knowing how to fight or escape a physical attack; you will also learn to think in terms of dangers, options and choices, allowing you to remain calmer and stay in control.
‘The retreat has been amazing with wonderful people, who shared themselves in such a way that I learned and felt safe. Experiencing Yoga was a beautiful, spiritual time and has inspired me to continue myself at home.