So yesterday was my Mum's funeral.
She passed away peacefully on 25 October with me. my Brother, Sister and her best friend by her side. This is the 2nd death I have been present for, the first was my Dad who passed away in March 2010, after contracting the super bug MRSA in hospital after successful surgery for bowel cancer; I find quite ironic that the hospital that had saved his life then went onto be the cause of his death!
The chances are, every single week, someone we know will lose someone they care about and yet many of us still do not appreciate the true value of life, the true privilege that is taken away from many, sometimes in the blink of an eye. We put our hopes and dreams on a back burner, hoping that one day we will have the time, passion or money to do or be the person we know is inside; we miss connecting with family and friends in favour of nights on the sofa watching mythical lives unfold or we're just 'busy'. There can't be anyone who wishes they had more sleep or watched more soaps on their death bed, and as Buddha said "In the end, only 3 things matters; how much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you".
The link below is a poem The Dash by Linda Ellis which I read at the funeral yesterday, for copyright reasons I am not allowed to write the words but am able to provide a link back to Linda's web-site,
I knew I wanted to say something at the funeral, but didn't feel comfortable reading anything too depressing or sad, she would have hated that anyway, I also couldn't talk about all she was for me all she had done for me, we didn't have a real, consistent relationship ever. But she was my Mum and I am grateful for the true blessing we had over the last month or so to reconnect, talk and both be at peace with our relationship. I will not only miss the fact that she is gone but also that now, what we will never have, the opportunities that have been taken away from our future. One thing I know for sure, is that she lived her 'Dash' to the fullest and had a positive impact on so many lives.
Check it out, it might make you think about your own 'Dash'