I was connected with a fabulous journalist, Karen Pasquali Jones, some months ago who was writing a story on people who have been married to the same person more than once as Hugh and I have been married twice; the first time was in December 1991 and more recently in November 2009. This story was bought by Take a Break Magazine who led with the front page headline ' I divorced my Husband and then he won the lottery, I made such a mistake' or something along those lines, which on the surface made me sound like some kind of money grabber, but hey I suppose they want to sell copies so that it more attention grabbing than 'I married the same man twice' which is what the Sunday Mirror Magazine lead with this week.
I have always been honest and open about who I am and the journey I have had but it is very strange reading your life in someone else's words, especially when those words have then been edited by someone completely different as this bring a different perspective. To be honest, I am disappointed that Take A Break didn't print what Karen wrote as she put a lot of time and effort into the article, on the plus side The Notebook (Sunday Mirror Supplement) did print the full article and apparently it will also feature in another national women's magazine in the coming weeks.
So why did I do this interview? Because my Husband is my soul mate and I love him from the tips of toes to the top of my head. Like many people, we struggled during our first marriage with 3 small children and the pressures of paying a mortgage that had a 15% interest rate due to the economic climate at the time, he was always working to support the family and I felt like I never saw him. All of us can only do the best we can with the resources we have at the time, and at that time our financial and personal resources were very low. I knew I had made a mistake as soon as I left, initially my pride stood in my way of going back, then later, circumstances and new relationships on both sides.
But I always knew he was the one for me and I never stopped loving him.
In 2007, 10 years after we split I called him and asked if he would consider getting back together; after he got over the shock, we had a serious discussion and have never looked back, finally we were both back where we were meant to be. I could spend my time regretting my decision back in 1997, wondering what might have been, it would have been our 25th wedding anniversary next month, but I would rather focus on the now and be thankful that we got a second chance. While he still has the capacity to drive me nuts sometimes (as I do him), he is the best Husband, Father and Grandfather anyone could want and I feel truly privileged to be his wife.
Don't live with regret about the past, the only way is forward, whatever that looks like