In the afternoon, I met a friend for coffee and we had a random conversation about how to permanently get rid of black mould, we chatted about methods and products and what was the best solution to get rid of it permanently (I know my life is all rock and roll!). Last night it got me thinking about the similarity to the ‘papering over the cracks’ that I had done for so many years. Wiping the mould or mildew off in your bathroom might get rid of the unsightly stain, but if you don’t treat it with the right products, then it will just come back bigger and bolder than it was before.
Nearly everyone I see in my practice or who attends my retreats and workshops has papered over the cracks or not dealt with their ‘mental mould’ on some level. What about you? Do you fill your mind and time with 'stuff' just so you don't have to think about your life, your past or your future? Or do you self-medicate with food or alcohol to numb the pain and feelings of low self-worth and doubt?
I did all of those for years, decades even. I papered over my cracks and wiped off the mould, but they never worked, not in the long term at least. I didn't heal and I didn't grow, I made mistake after mistake, doing what I had always done and behaving in the same way but always hoping for and expecting a different result. It was only after I cleaned my ‘mental mould’ and properly filled and sanded my cracks that the paper stuck.
What about you, how are you treating your walls? Are you papering over the cracks or have you found the solution for permanent repair?